Friday, April 02, 2010

Michel's point of view on the accident (inverted, naturally)

Ah, my hubby. Already excited about getting something new, so glosses over the fun details of my little adventure. It was a fun ride, though I don't recommend trying this - it's a rather expensive ride!

It was dark outside when it happened, about ten till 6, on my way to a yoga class before work. I was in the middle lane. I was behind someone going about 45-50, who was behind a big truck, and I'd been there for a while. I wanted to go a little faster, about 50-55. I thought about going around to the left, but the left lane didn't have the tire tracks that the two right lanes did. There weren't any cars to the right, so that seemed a MUCH safer move.

I put on my blinker, looked over my shoulder, started drifting towards the right. The unfortunate thing was, I was starting to cross over a bridge. The bridge was entirely ice (no tire tracks). So, in about half a second my back wheels slipped to the left and I was sliding over the bridge, heading towards the median. ("Oh, right. That makes perfect sense. Turn right to go left. Yes, thank you! Or should I say No, thank you, because in Opposite World, maybe that really means thank you." Lightning McQueen)

I mainly focused on staying relaxed, knowing that drunk drivers walk away from all kinds of bad wrecks because they don't react to them. I left off the accelerator, kept my hands on the wheel, didn't brake - wouldn't do any good and might make things worse - and actually sort of enjoyed the ride. I figured I'd end up in the grass of the median, maybe need to turn around, and I could be on my way again. Then I saw I was going to hit the guard rail...bummer, there would be some damage to the vehicle. Then the hit. Not a big hit, really, kinda like bumper cars. But it was enough to get the vehicle tipping, driver's side. It was enough to tip it over, driver's side, and one more tip, to the roof. It was like "tip...tip" with a second or so in between. Suck.

Can't really drive away when the vehicle is upside down. The engine was still running, and no windows were broken. I didn't think hanging out upside down was a good idea, so I unbuckled and fell to the roof of my X. Absolutely no injury. I had a teensy bit of soreness in the shoulder - to be expected - but because #1 - God took care of me and #2 - God made me the type that doesn't freak out and tense up when something crazy happens (I get more upset about sleeping in late than about flipping my Xterra over - ask Jonathan if you don't believe that)- I can honestly say that I've had worse injury from sleeping on my pillow funny. I was able to open the door - no squished metal making it hard to open. Before I crawled out, I set about searching for my cell phone. Another motorist saw it happen and stopped to see if I was ok. His name was Ralph. He ended up giving me a ride home. While he was standing there and I was getting my things, another vehicle spun out and hit the guard rail on the right side of the road. Ralph said "this probably isn't a safe place to stand."

Anyways, curious about the first thing I said? While searching the phone, I saw my coffee cup on its side. I could use a sip of my coffee. I picked it up, tipped to my mouth, and got nothing. "Aw...I spilled my coffee!" Another bummer.

A positive: the police officer said no citation. It was the conditions. Cool beans. That should help insurance rates NOT go up!

Oh well. I said I'd keep my X until it died. The towing did it in. The engine was still running (I turned it off), there was no broken glass...the pics from after towing paint a different picture. They mangled the hell out of it righting it and getting it on the tow truck. My poor X. Now, whenever I see a like Xterra, I will probably utter a little whimper. I loved my Xterra.

But now, since we have the Armada (aka "The Beast") for all our muscles and roomy capacity needs, I'm looking for something with better gas mileage for my commuter/grocery getter/take the family & dogs to the park ride. And it has to be AWD/4WD - there were many mornings this winter when I wouldn't have made it to work if I didn't have the 4x4 capability. So that capability is a must for anywhere there's a real winter - which has included our last three assignments.

So what am I going to get? Don't know, yet. I'm trying to keep an open mind, I'm not stuck on SUV - but I want a hatchback-type vehicle so that if we want to take the dogs somewhere, we aren't limited to the Armada. I want to be comfortable in my ride - I drive 17 miles to work everyday, then back again. We will buy this vehicle to keep until it dies, like all of our vehicles (some just die in more dramatic fashion than others). I like to get used, 2-4 years old, because you can save a lot of money, but a lot of the vehicles we like are redesigns for 2010, which means new. Maybe if we wait until Sept or so they will be looking to offload them, or even have some used ones. We're not in a hurry. We aren't the type to make decisions such as these based on emotion. In true nerd (me) and geek (him) fashion, we have jointly developed a spreadsheet to enter all of the things that are important to us, developed a rating system with equations and formulas for analyzing our inputs, and we're going to dealerships looking at vehicles then coming home to enter the data into the spreadsheet. We have looked at lots of vehicles so far: Nissan Rogue & Murano, Kia Sportage, Toyota RAV-4, Venza, and Matrix, Subaru Impreza, Forester, and Outback, Audi A3, Volkswagen Tiguan, Honda CR-V, Acura RDX, Jeep Patriot, Mazda CX7, Mitsubishi Lancer Sportback, Hyundai Tucson...we've looked at even more online, including minivans, for about 10 seconds (hey - we can say that we looked). Many vehicles are ruled out because of gas mileage (most of the American vehicles we were initially considering fall into this category, by the time you include AWD/4WD). I want to get better mileage than the Xterra (otherwise, I'd just get another one!) which got a bit better gas mileage than The Beast. We haven't test-driven anything yet. That'll come in the near future. For now, we're seeing what's out there, and physically taking a look to see if we can eliminate anything. Quite a few have fallen off the list for a variety of reasons. If you have any suggestions, feel free to bombard Jonathan with emails! ;o) And what a great hubby I have. He didn't get mad at me that I killed a vehicle. I suppose if this was a habit of mine, it might be different. Instead, he mainly got excited that I'm considering an Audi. I think that's his top choice. But knowing that I'm going to be driving this 90% of time, it's mostly my choice. Great hubby!

Thursday, April 01, 2010

Michel's Crashed Xterra on local Channel 7 news

So this is really cool. I found the article on the local Channel 7 website about the icy roads and the video that shows the Xterra inverted on the median
Video

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Anyone can post now

I freed the restrictions on posting comments, so anyone can post them

Friday, March 26, 2010

March Madness - R.I.P. Xterra

As if this month wasn't busy enough (possible complete life change from house dad to working father, daughter in the hospital...), there was a huge problem with ice this morning on the freeway. Apparently everyone BUT the state decided it was a good idea to salt with the surprise snow last night, so the Interstate was left unsalted, and completely iced over; but they had ALL NIGHT to figure it out. I believe I'll be filing a claim on this one, blatant neglect. In any case, my wife hit an ice patch on a bridge, had no control, went into the center media, and because of the guardrail there, rolled it over. She called me at 6 am to say she rolled the Xterra and was fine. She really was fine, too except for some mild shock. Just a little soreness from the seatbelt. It was a very calm roll-over. So the vehicle is totaled, we believe. It was ("was" ... funny I should say that already), IS 10 years old and has 150k miles on it, so it has served us well. Michel was rather attached to the vehicle.

Unfortunately the police had it towed before I could get there and take pics of it inverted(I discovered this when I called the tow truck driver who reported that it wasn't there anymore).

So... yeah... interesting.

We spent the evening "decompressing" by sitting on the couch with our laptops eating sweets and investigating what her next car will be. Surprisingly, Michel is looking a LOT at the Audi A3 Quattro! (Yay me!) We're not looking at new, but used, '06 models as they're a bit cheaper, but still pricey. Another option is the Nissan Rogue and Murano, a bit cheaper, and less cool, but will serve our needs.

This email was waiting in my inbox, sent at about the same time I was trying to get the right police on the phone (apparently this stretch of the I-675 isn't supported by the Highway patrol, but by SEVEN different local police forces...). This is between two folks discussing my potential hire:

[hr]
Andrew,
Thanks for sending. I'm thinking these new rated civilian positions may be
a fit.
Thanx,


Jon

-----Original Message-----
Subject: candidate for civilian hire

Jon,
Here is the resume for Jon Allain we discussed earlier. Jon may be sending
an updated resume soon.

Please consider.

Thanks!
[hr]

the pics:
RIP Xterra
RIP Xterra
RIP Xterra

Here's the road surface even 2 hours later, still no salt, still a ton of ice, cars still going off everywhere. Shortly after this picture the first salt truck went by on the OTHER side. You can still see her tire tracks in the ice!
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Here's where she hit the guardrail and rolled, going backwards:
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Saturday, March 20, 2010

Abigail is coming home!

Friday, March 19, 2010

Hospital pics

I will update this as I get more pictures here at the hospital
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v314/glyph_99es/Abigail%20Hospital%202010/

Still in the hospital. Need 24 hrs with fever less than 100.4. She has reflux in the urine system. May need surgery. Waiting on urologist for more info

This will now be updated again!

For some recent to not-so-recent pics, at least from my cell phone, check out my photobucket collection. These are from 2008 til now.

Long email = blog entry

Here’s the long story:

LESSON LEARNED: If you find yourself in an emergency room, needing various tests, and it looks like you won’t be home for a while, do yourself a favor and grab a pen or pencil and some paper. Document EVERYTHING that is done – what test, what time, what result, the time you got the results, etc. Because when you’ve been up all night, been to two emergency rooms and one regular room, and through several tests, you aren’t going to remember what time you learned what. Especially if the clock in your room is off!

 

THE WHOLE STORY: Before you read the whole story, I’d ask that you not retell the details to other children. Mostly, because it’s embarrassing to Abigail and it is her choice to tell other people, not mine. She doesn’t mind the adults knowing (yes, I asked first), but doesn’t want other kids to know all the details – especially the ct scan part. Adults won’t make fun of her the way kids might.

 

So what happened? I’m not sure what Jonathan has shared, so if some of this may be repeat info. The doctors still aren’t 100% positive of the source (the what), and even less positive of the cause (the how).

 

Saturday night: She started having a fever Saturday night. Nothing overly concerning at that time, just a sick kid. She didn’t eat much for dinner, either – just a few rolls and some juice (we were at a party).

 

Sunday: Sunday morning, her fever had reached 103.5, and she was saying she hurt – headache and pain in her right side, just below her ribs. Clearly, we weren’t going to church that morning. She stayed in her pjs all day, I made a fire and made a little bed for her so she could lay in front of the fire and rest, and hopefully get better. We had to really push her to eat, a couple of fried eggs and a few bites of hot cereal. She stayed laying there all day, and I gave her ibuprofen a couple of time to help with her headache. That afternoon she tried to roll over, and cried out in pain. Her side hurt – a lot. Okay, now I’m concerned that this isn’t a normal kid-got-sick event, we are dealing with something a little more serious. My thought: appendicitis. I look up the symptoms. Fever – yes. Nausea, vomiting – no. Loss of appetite – yes, she hadn’t had anything else to eat that day, and only about 8 ounces of water over the whole day. Pain in the right side – yes. Appendicitis is time-sensitive, so waiting until Monday to make an appointment at the clinic for who knows when is out of the question. We have to visit an emergency room. We go to the emergency room at Kettering Hospital, not the closest one to our house, but a better hospital than the one that’s closest. It’s not terribly busy, we’re seen in due time. She gets an adult-sized gown, but she can keep her pants on, so it’s not that big of a deal. She has a fever, somewhere over 103, (yeah, I knew that!) and they do blood and urine tests. She hasn’t peed all day, since the morning, so she’s dehydrated. They start an IV, using it first to take blood, then to deliver fluids. She does manage to pee, and the urine is clean (no urinary tract infection (UTI)) but the blood shows abnormally high white blood cell count. We’re told that normal/healthy is 10,000, and a person with an elevated count - say, someone with appendicitis - has about 15,000. Abigail has twice that, over 30,000. The doc thinks it MAY be appendicitis, but the lack of vomiting, the way the pain just came on suddenly, not gradually, and remained in one spot, rather than starting in the middle and moving to the side, as typically happens in appendicitis, and the location – it’s a little high, just under the ribs – and the freakishly high white blood cell count made him think it could well be something else. He called Dayton Children’s hospital, they said check for pneumonia. She isn’t really coughing, but just in case. We do x-rays. Her lungs are clean. No pneumonia. Her temperature is monitored, and it comes down to normal, so they did a second blood test, and the count was down, but only just: 24,600. We pray over her. We are transferred to Dayton Children’s thinking there’s an appendectomy in our near future, as we’re told appendicitis is still most likely.

 

Sunday night into Monday morning: The rooms at Kettering’s emergency department are spacious, clean, bright, and updated. The rooms at Dayton Children’s are not. They are cramped, dark, dirty, and clearly have been around for a while. We get there around 2200 or so. We drove Abigail there, and stopped at Chipotle to pick up dinner for the rest of us on the way. Anticipating a surgery, Abigail was not allowed to have anything to eat or drink. Dayton Children’s is about 15 minutes from our house, so it’s not far. They were expecting us, and had a room waiting. Abigail got an adult-sized hospital gown (again! At the children’s hospital?) and they take her temperature, blood pressure, and all that. Her temperature starts to rise again. The doc there (who spoke with the doc from Kettering) is not convinced it’s appendicitis, but clearly there’s something going on in there that’s not right. They only gave us paper copies of the x-rays, so we repeated the x-rays, this time doing one for the belly as well. Jonathan talked to one of the technicians and the guy was able to get a child-sized gown for her to wear (what a concept!). Now we wait for the radiologist to look at the x-rays, as well as a surgeon. Abigail is kind of hungry, but she’s really thirsty. She’s crying because she can’t have anything to drink. She gets some Tylenol for her headache, which she gets to take with water: she was thrilled to get water, even if it was only 3 sips. We got a little pushy with the staff and said she needs to get back on the IV drip now. They complied. After a couple of hours watching her temperature rise, getting her back on IV fluids, and knowing that we’ve got a lot of waiting ahead, Jonathan and Balen head home (thanks to Bobby Hart for coming to pick them up after midnight, so I could keep a vehicle with me!). By the way, Balen was really well-behaved through all of this. Considering he just turned 4, and small children aren’t known for their patience, he did really well entertaining himself, not demanding attention constantly, and obeying us when he was told not to touch this or that, not to go here or there. Thank you, God, for such an easy child!

 

Monday morning for us: The x-rays aren’t showing anything interesting, so the doctor orders a ct scan, which was by far the worst part of this whole ordeal for Abigail. She peed in a cup no problem at Kettering (no help from Mommy needed there). For this scan, since they really wanted to highlight the appendix, she required contrast fluid. Some of that fluid was put into her IV. Most of it had to go directly into the bowels, via the backdoor. This isn’t a brief discomfort, either, like taking blood. This takes about 30 minutes. She has to keep the tube in, and lay first on one side, then her stomach, then the other side, so that the fluid can pass around all the twists, turns, and corners that make up the intestinal tract. The scans themselves are easy – she just has to lay still and hold her breath for a few seconds. Poor girl – by this time it was about 0200, she has a fever again, she’s shaking, and crying, asking when it’ll be over. The scans are finally complete, and what fluid can be drained is, then the tube comes out, and she goes to the bathroom to expel more fluid. She feels better after that, but is still pretty shaken. A bit later they ask for a urine sample, a clean catch this time. I go with the nurse who says “Mom, you’ve done this before, maybe she’ll be more comfortable with you helping her.” So Abigail, her IV fluids, and I go in a bathroom. Good thing there’s room for all of us. I help her open the wipes, tell her what she needs to do, monitor that she’s doing it properly. I take the lid off the cup and hold it out to her. She takes it. I wait. She appears to be waiting patiently, standing up though, not yet trying to pee. “Well, go ahead, pee in the cup!” I say. A complete change comes over her face. She is now wearing outrage on her face, completely incensed at the thought of going pee in a cup in front of her mother. She just points to the door and shouts “OUT!” Her face doesn’t change. I’m surprised, amused, proud, and teensy bit sad, all at once. My little girl…not so little anymore. “Okay, okay, I’ll go!” I wait outside the bathroom. She calls to me in a bit. She doesn’t need to pee, though she did get rid of more fluid from the back side. I tell the nurse, who tells me the next step is a catheter. Hmm. Abigail does not know what I catheter is, but I’m sure that if I explain it, she’ll find that she indeed needs to pee. I tell her. Two minutes later, her cup is filled. Now we wait for results. This test also show no UTI. The ct scans are read by a radiologist, the surgeon, and a urologist – they found something in her right kidney. We’re initially told it’s an abscess – a closed off collection of bacteria that has taken up residence in her kidney. They admit her to the hospital proper to start antibiotics and monitor her condition. We move from the dingy emergency to the much more roomy, much more comfortable 3rd floor. There are two wings to the third floor: east and west. Typically, kids needing surgery are put in the east side, kids who’s cases are being led by medical teams are on the west side. She is assigned to a room in the east wing. This is actually good, as one of the nurses tells me later in the week, because the kids on the other side tend to have lots of boogers and snot, and are typically sicker than the kids on this side (more contagions over there). So we get settled in, she gets an antibiotic Rocephin (ro-sef-in), via IV and stays connected to her drip. It’s about 0400. She still has a fever, still has pain, but maybe now we can settle down and rest for a bit. I make my bed in the room, on the long, barely padded bench that’s against the wall with windows (lovely view of the parking garage, by the way). I ask for a toothbrush and toothpaste (for me) since I haven’t brushed my teeth since Sunday morning. I get them, and also make Abigail brush her teeth – she hadn’t brushed since Saturday night (and by now, her breath was, shall we say, less than pleasant). Maybe I can sleep, too? Not likely. I pray over my girl again. About every twenty minutes, someone is coming in to check on something. Nurse, nurse’s assistant, someone getting the linens, someone else checking on supplies (hand sanitizer, gloves, etc.). I sort of got about 3 hours of sleep, in twenty-minute spurts. They schedule her for an ultrasound of her kidneys, so they can get a better look at the foreign thing taking up residence there. That should happen about 0800. At 0645 on the clock in our room, they come to take her to radiology. Wow…early, I thought. Good – let’s get it done! The ultrasound is far less uncomfortable than the ct scan, though she does say “ow” several times as the technician puts the wand on her and applies a little pressure to get the right views. When she starts to complain I remind her of her ct scan, and how this isn’t really all that bad. Ultrasound done, we are returned to the room, and we wait for the doctors to look at the ultrasound. My untrained eye clearly sees a dark splotch in the middle of kidney. In all the tv shows, whenever there’s a dark spot or a light spot, it’s always bad news. Dramatically bad news. We’ll see what comes of this.

 

Monday morning for the rest of the world: About 0900, the doctors are showing up to work. I meet Dr. Boreman, who is actually a doc from the base. He’s the attending for this case. I also meet the resident, Dr. Colby, she’s another one from the base. There’s a second resident on this case as well, Dr. Mergler. Not sure where she fits in, but whatever. So we’ve got an attending, two residents, a surgeon is still keeping an eye on this case, a radiologist, and a urologist. Each one comes in (one at a time, of course, not all together) and they remark on how unusual her case is. All the doctors and the nurses, they typically listen to Abigail for a minute or two then turn to me and say “she’s really smart, isn’t she?” Yeah, I get that a lot. Eventually, they all say the same thing, that they’ll give antibiotics and wait and see, though there’s a slight change from the initial diagnosis of abscess: they think it’s pyelonephritis. Basically, that’s just an infection in the kidney. The abscess is more of a close-walled thing, whereas the pyelonephritis is more ‘open’ and prone to attack from antibiotics. By the time we finished the ultrasound, Abigail is nearly in tears because she’s hungry and thirsty. She can’t have anything to eat or drink until we know they aren’t going to do surgery. So we wait. Monday goes by in a slightly surreal way. I eventually figure out that I feel so confused about the time because the clock in the room is wrong – it wasn’t set forward an hour over the weekend. I take the friggin’ clock off the wall and fix the time myself! So the ultrasound wasn’t done early, it was done a teensy bit late, actually. I call work and nicely tell them that I don’t care about anything going on there, and everyone agrees that’s fine. I don’t have to take leave. Yay! I’m trying to make sure Abigail is comfortable, and I’m watching her temperature rise up over 103 then coast back down again. She’s still hurting in her head and her side, but she mostly wants to rest. There is a family resource center on the 2nd floor where I can get some movies for her. I check a couple out, but she doesn’t want to watch them until way later that night. The first time I head down there, I ask a student nurse to sit in with her while I’m away for a few minutes. Abigail was getting along well with this particular lady, so I thought it would help her feel okay while I went downstairs. I was only gone for about 10 minutes, but when I came back she had just thrown up. Not much, since there was nothing in her stomach, just a couple of tablespoons. But the nursing student was heading out of the room to get the head nurse, since there was blood there. Oh no…what now? Blood in her puke? This can’t be good, or even ok. I get a couple of paper towels wet to help her wipe her mouth, and see the blood. It’s maybe a couple of drops of bright red blood. I look at her, and see the exact same shade slowly dripping out of her nose. Oh – it’s just a bloody nose! Just a bloody nose! I don’t care about bloody noses! Balen has them all time, and his can be gushers. This is just a small little ooze, it doesn’t even need any more attention than a swipe with a tissue! We get her cleaned up and sitting back, and the resident comes back. She sees that Abigail is clearly hungry and thirsty, and calls the urologist, the last one they were waiting on to look at the ultrasounds. He has been in surgery all morning. He clears her to eat – hooray! No surgery!! We immediately order something up for her to eat. She insists on eating soft foods, even though there’s no restriction on what she can eat. “You have teeth!” I tell her. She gets applesauce, yogurt, and chicken noodle soup.

 

They tell me the thing in her kidney is about 9mm across. Not really large enough to drain, so antibiotics are the choice course of action.

 

Monday afternoon: The food arrives, and she doesn’t want to eat. She wants to rest. She rests, and eventually starts to eat. She slowly gets the applesauce in here, then a little yogurt. She never touches the soup. She throws up what she ate. Good thing she’s connected to an IV. The food here sucks. I’m glad she didn’t eat the soup. It looks canned. We don’t do canned stuff (well, tomatoes when they’re out of season, but that’s about it), or boxed either. And only a handful of frozen items. It’s perplexing, and unbelievable, that they have so much garbage on the menu here. Froot Loops? They can’t even spell ‘fruit’ correctly, let alone provide decent nutrition. The very crap that’s likely making people sick in the first place is provided for them at the place where they are supposed to get better. At least we aren’t here because of diet. All of the docs told us there is nothing that we could have done or not done – it’s not food or environment, it’s not exposure to something – to have caused her problem. It’s just a freak event, unpredictable and unpreventable.

 

Jonathan and Balen return, and the kids watch a movie together. They bring some food with them, including some yogurt. Jonathan went out and picked up Smashburger for dinner (burgers and fries for the three of us – she didn’t want anything since she wasn’t keeping anything down). I feed Abigail some yogurt. Not that she can’t do it, but since her IV is in her right arm, she’s having a hard time getting the food to her mouth neatly, and she doesn’t feel good, she’s tired, etc. So I feed her. She also had a little leftover ravioli with tilapia and cauliflower. She manages to keep this down, but it’s really not a whole lot of food. Great that she’s keeping it down though!

 

We have some visitors today, too. Bobby Hart from our house church stops by on his way home from work. A bit later the Gould’s stop in (Dave, Jamie, and Cody, who’s 12) also from our house church. Everyone is bringing little gifts, and she’s now got some stuffed animals and puzzle books to occupy her time here – when she’s feeling well enough, that is. Visitors leave at 2000, then the boys go home. Abigail and I settle in for the night. Nurses and staff are constantly coming in and checking on things. I ask her if she wants me to sleep in the bed with her (these beds are wider than the ones in the ER) and she says no. She doesn’t me hovering around her, constantly holding her hand, but she also doesn’t want me to leave. At one point she tells me “go back to what you were doing,” telling me that she wants me to go back to reading my book in the corner of the room, and not bother her any more. She’s not a little girl anymore, but she’s a long ways from all grown up. Not nearly as much activity this night as last night. There are still people checking on her fairly regularly, but we both get some sleep.

 

Tuesday: She gets another dose of the antibiotic at 0400 (it’s once every 24 hours for this one). She’s still going up and down with fever, but it’s topping out at a lower peak than the day before. They take some blood the next time her fever spikes, to see if they can get any bacteria cultures from it. This time, they don’t use the IV, since it now needs to be used for fluids. She gets a little stressed about it. She orders scrambled eggs at breakfast, takes one bite and says they’re gross, mine are WAY better, and does she have to eat them? No, she doesn’t have to eat them. I’m sure they’re made from powder. They are probably disgusting. We ask Daddy to bring in some scrambled eggs for her, and she eats about half of what he brought. Tuesday goes by rather uneventfully. I go to the base for a dental appointment, which I end up rescheduling because it will take a long time, and I don’t want to be away for too long. I stop by work to turn off the out-of-office reply for me email, grab a few things to work on while sitting in the hospital, and give people there an update. I tell a co-worker about the hospital’s email a patient thing, and Jonathan send out the email below. Emails start flooding for Abigail. They really pick up her spirits, and put a smile on her face. They do another urine test as well. There still isn’t any real infection, but one particular bacteria, enterococcus, is a bit high. Normally, the count of bacteria per mL required to be classified as an infection is 100,000. The enterococcus is at 40,000. Nothing else is showing up. They are keeping in mind that this is after the Rocephin, so bacteria counts may be lower, even though Rocephin doesn’t target enterococcus. They switch her antibiotic to something called Unison, which is also given via IV, but 4x/day instead of once every 24 hours. So her first dose of that was given Tuesday evening, ‘bout 1800. The blood cultures don’t show much of anything. Jonathan goes out and picks up Panera for all of us, including some of their chicken noodle soup for Abigail. She is starting to eat, and keeping things down, but her appetite is still pretty small. She eats less soup than Balen does, and Balen also had some turkey sandwich. But at least she’s eating, and keeping the food down. Since she’s keeping food down, they take her off the IV, to see how she’ll do on her own. The line still stays in her vein, but now she’s free to move about without wheeling her fluids along with her. This makes many things easier: going pee, taking a shower, brushing her teeth, changing clothes, laying around in bed. My men stay here a little later this night, but go home after a while.

 

Wednesday: Wednesday is St Patrick’s day. She gets meds at 0600, but we sleep a little longer. The docs make their rounds, ‘bout 0900. Nothing really new for today. We do have a second ultrasound scheduled for today, to see if the thing in her kidney has changed at all. Abigail gives me a hard time about not wearing green. She isn’t either, but since her hospital bracelet is green, she is convinced she’s fine, and I’m prone to pinching. I tell her that mommies who come to the ER on Sunday night don’t pack clothes and don’t plan for St Patrick’s day. I’m exempt! We head down to radiology for the second ultrasound. I’m not a radiologist, but I can compare, and I can read. The spot looks about the same. If that isn’t enough, the measurements on the screen, when the technician placed the little marks on each side of it, showed 1.08 cm. Hmm. I’m not medically trained, but I can move a decimal point (I’ve got my P.E. now, remember?). Giving a margin of error, which I’m sure there is one, considering the measurement would depend on what pixel the technician clicks on, 1.08 cm is the same thing as 9 mm. It hasn’t shrunk. It hasn’t grown, either, which is good. But that’s just what I think.

 

My men show up later in the afternoon. I take the little man home with me, and cook up a storm. I bake some bread, make spaghetti with meat sauce, make some chicken stew and brown rice, boil some eggs, make a salad, pack some dressing, make pancakes (with whole grains!) and pack some pure maple syrup (the stuff in the hospital is not maple syrup, it’s corn syrup, high fructose corn syrup, caramel coloring, artificial flavoring, etc.). I grab some cheese, some salami, and some sweet treats: organic lollipops from TJs for the kids, some dark chocolate for Daddy and me. Balen plays outside with the dogs while I work in the kitchen. I also pack some clothes for myself, and grab Abigail and my yoga mats. Balen and I get back to the hospital about 4 hours after we left. Not too bad, if you ask me.

 

She and Daddy did some crafts in a different part of the hospital while we were gone. She ate her leftover soup for lunch, and had some chicken stew and rice for dinner. She actually ate a whole bowl of food this time. She’s been keeping everything down since yesterday. No need to hook her back up to the IV. She’s got to pee into a “hat” every time she goes, so we can track her output. We’ve got to get on her case to get her to drink water – she seems incapable of consuming an amount of water that approach that of a normal human girl without tons of prodding from us.

 

Jonathan and Balen go out for ice cream from Graeter’s after we eat dinner. It takes him long enough that I start to wonder where he is. I text him: “Everything ok?” He replies “Got pulled over. No ticket.” Hmm. Well, he’s driving the Mazda, which he’s done some work on, and it is St. Patrick’s day, and he was passing through the part of town where all the drinking was happening. The officer pulled him over for going through a yellow light (?) but when he saw Jonathan (and Balen, I’m assuming) and the ice cream and heard that he had a girl in the hospital, I’m pretty sure the guy wasn’t interested further. Jonathan said he only asked for his license, no insurance or registration, which is a clear sign he wouldn’t be getting a ticket. He was just looking for drunk drivers.

 

We all enjoyed our ice cream, and the boys went home late – after 11. Turns out that parking is free if you leave after 2300. It’s $2/day otherwise.

 

Thursday: Abigail and I didn’t go to sleep until after her midnight IV antibiotics, so we slept in a bit. Dr. Boreman stopped by at 0800, a little earlier than usual, so he woke us up. Abigail wasn’t interested in eating very much all morning long, nor in drinking. She was glued to her DS most of the time. Her fever was mostly gone, and I actually thought we might be going home tonight. All the doctors said that if she maintains a non-fever temperature for 24 hours, she could go home. Fever is defined at 38°C (100.4°F). Her last fever was last night at about 1730. So we were looking at being released from the hospital that evening, potentially.

 

She continued with the antibiotics, and we mostly just hung out and waited. I did yoga. Tried to get her to do it with me, which produced much frustration for both of us. All she wants to do is play those stupid video games. I warned her that it’ll be taken away if she doesn’t find other things to do. There is more to life than video games! I made her take a shower before getting a real meal. It took until noon for her to get her butt showered. Then the men showed up and we all had the pancakes that I made the day before.

 

She monitored her temperature, and we were doing good until 1600. The nurses gave us our own thermometer – I think on Tuesday. It’s an oral thermometer (digital). The nurses use a scanner-type thermometer, that they run from the middle of the forehead, down one side of the face to behind the ear. When we report an elevated temperature, they check it for themselves and record it. I haven’t been wrong yet…even before they gave us our own thermometer, I would tell them that I think her temp is rising again, and I’d be right.

 

The urologist ordered another test – a VCUG: a voiding cystourethrogram. This test is an x-ray where fluid is pumped into the bladder, images are taken, and more images are taken while the patient pees out the fluid. They are looking to see if what goes in the bladder stays in the bladder, or if it backtracks into the kidneys, indicating vesicoureteral reflux (which I’ll now refer to simply as reflux or VUR). First they insert a catheter (she was extremely nervous and stresses about this, but it ended up being a loud “ow!” and that was it – she was laughing by the end of the test) then they drain her urine. They keep the catheter in and pump her bladder full of fluid. They do this until she says she needs to pee, then they have her pee and take the pictures. She basically pees into a diaper and some towels, so it’s not as messy as it sounds. And the fluid is clear – just like when they put it in. The cool part about this test is that the images are right there on the screen next to the patient’s head. I was there with her the whole time. I saw the bladder grow & glow (the contrast fluid makes it glow on the x-ray), then I saw the tubes from her bladder glow, the right one just a little, the left one a lot. Then one side of her left kidney started to glow. It looks really cool, actually – her whole bladder, the line to the kidney, and about a third of her kidney all brightly highlighted in the frame of her body. Except that I know what it means: my girl has reflux. I don’t need a radiologist or urologist to interpret that one for me.

 

But we then have to wait for the urologist to look at it. He calls us a couple hours later, after we’ve been told officially that her fever at 1600 has kept us here another day. The urologist tells me what I already know, then tells me what we can/should do. He says that we’ll continue the treatment we’re on: two weeks of antibiotics. Whenever it is we go home, we’ll get a prescription for the number of days remaining of the two weeks since she started antibiotics, which was Monday morning. But with reflux, she will need antibiotics daily until she has a procedure done to correct the backflow. Either an injection that effectively creates a ball valve or a surgery to realign/reroute the tubes from the kidney to the bladder. Jonathan and I will be busy looking into these options over the next few weeks. The urologist said that it’s not something we need to do right away – in fact, her bladder should be disease- and stress-free (no VUCG tests, for instance) for 4-6 weeks before any work is done on it. He said if we wanted to wait until summer or fall, that would be fine. With this condition, most little kids have a chance they’ll outgrow it. Abigail is considered “old” for this condition, meaning that she isn’t going to outgrow it, so some sort of intervention will be necessary. I’m not keen on the idea of giving her antibiotics every day, so I’m inclined to get this done sooner rather than later. But we have a lot of information to gather first.

 

Jonathan has lots of questions for the doctors, so he’ll be here in the morning. He wasn’t happy with a phone call to our room from the urologist. He thought he should have come up here to talk to us. I know that he’ll be by in the morning to go over everything with us, so I wasn’t concerned. All the docs make their round in the morning. I guess they are busy reading lab results all afternoon, and calling patients (or more likely their parents) with the results, to go room to room. I don’t know. The phone call doesn’t bother me, but it does Jonathan. I think he’s feeling a little out of the loop, though I’m telling him everything as soon as I know. It’s hard to keep track though.

 

We all eat dinner here (all food from home: spaghetti, salad, and fruit for dessert). The boys leave around 2100. Abigail and I hang out for a while – do a craft, put on a musical, eat some more food. I make her drink more water. She doesn’t seem to understand that she NEEDS to drink MORE WATER! I attempt to educate her on that.

 

Friday: Well, she didn’t wait long on Friday to reset our “get out of the hospital” clock: at 0020 she reached 102°F. So now we’re looking at Saturday morning at the earliest. Jonathan and I are starting to do research into the procedures for correcting VUR. We don’t like the fact that they want her on antibiotics from now until whenever she has a procedure done. We’d like to skip the daily antibiotics. We’ll talk with the urologist at some point here and see. She’s been healthy this whole time. She’s 10! The doctors keep talking about how unusual this is for a child her age, it’s far more common in young children – Balen’s age and younger. Maybe she’s just actually healthy – with this one infection as an exception. I’d feel differently if we were constantly battling UTIs, but she’s never had one. We don’t want to wait forever to do the procedure, either. We’d like to get it done soon – in the next month or two, if we can.

 

Her temperature has been up 99.5°F today so far. If she does get another fever, she’ll have another ultrasound scheduled tomorrow. The key question is: what is that thing in her kidney? They are basing her recovery from it on her temperature and how she’s feeling. They are making a highly educated guess that the enterococcus is the culprit, based on its presence in the urine. But the fact is they don’t actually KNOW what’s in her kidney. So…we’re waiting and seeing.

Here's an image from her VCUG showing the stuff going up into her kidney:
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This is the image with some expert and dramatic illustration:
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Thursday, January 08, 2009

Lots of pictures. Enjoy!

here's a quick post to put up some links to pictures that we've taken recently. I'll do another post tomorrow about Christmas, and add those pics as well.

Mazza Christmas Party 6 Dec 08

PA Backyard Playtime 9 Nov 08

Saying Goodbye 10 Nov 08

Decorating the Tree 19 Dec 08

Playing in the Backyard 24 Dec 08

Playing the backyard with snow 7 Jan 09 (today)

Sunday, December 21, 2008

A new low for the Allains

OMG! Look at this weather we're having right now!



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About our move (we're now in Dayton, OH):

Let's set up the situation: It's Sunday the 14th, I am driving the XTerra with Morpheus (the cat), towing a car carrier from U-Haul upon which sits the Mazda. Michel is following in the armada, with the kids and the dogs, towing the boat loaded down with more stuff. We are finally leaving at 4pm on Sunday with an expected arrival time of about 11pm in Dayton at Uncle Zdzis' and Aunt Maryann's house. They are graciously allowing us to stay there the night before closing. I would just like to point out that they have been GREAT to us! They put us up while we were house hunting, with comfort, wifi, and a printer, with which we staged our house hunting tours. They also watched the children while we were speed-hunting with the agent, which made things incredibly quick and peaceful. Plus the kids were playing in their "play-basement" instead of being bored out of their skulls. Just the simplicity of not having to take them in and out of car-seats the whole time was alone worth it!

One last side note: we have made several family road-trips - including a 24 hour drive to visit the Smiths in Oklahoma for Christmas last year - as a family with nowhere near this kind of trouble.

So, on with the road-trip from hell:

Almost immediately I'm pretty sure the cat has peed on his bed in the carrier. It's not bothering me, so I just keep going. 20 minutes out of State College, Michel calls on the cell phone to say that Penny needs to pee and is whining, and oh yeah, the tire on the car carrier from Uhaul looks a little flat so we agree to stop at the next exit. I was curious how this happened because I performed a complete "pre-flight" inspection of the carrier and boat trailer to make sure that the trip would be safe. Nothing appeared amiss. This is rural Pennsylvania, already, so exits are few and far between. So we agree that we should pull over at the next exit and check the tire. We never got there. I'm messing with the GPS when there's a ton of vibration. I look in the mirrors, left side fine, right side.... I see bits of rubber flying. The rear-right tire (carrier has 4 tires) has blown. I look up just in time to see a sign saying we're 2 miles from the next exit. So I slow down to about 30 but keep going on 3 tires to a gas station just off the freeway. I stop off to the side in what turns out to be gravel and mud. At least as much as it can be mud in 30 degree weather. I call U-Haul, they relay a 1 hour show time for the truck. We get some sandwiches at the gas station Subway since there is NOTHING around this exit other than the gas station. I called just after an hour since no one showed. They report that he's on the way. Don't they always say that? 10 minutes after I get off the phone they show. Another 1.5 hrs later (2.5hrs) we're back on the road. It was the rear tire, so likely not debris, but a failed tire. It's the first blown tire I've ever had in 17 years of driving. So now our 11pm arrival is 130am. At least we filled up on gas again...

It's while we're getting gas that Morpheus has diarrhea. I've let him roam the truck since he's much quieter when he's not caged (constant MROWR MROWR MROWR). I've given him a sedative for the trip, and it's just now kicking in, apparently with a bit of a muscle relaxant at the same time. He's coughing and sputtering (from the rear) and we're trying to prevent any further mess. Luckily he's only gotten the cup holder, not the drinks themselves. His original pad was already messed on so we put a small rug that didn't get packed in his carrier in case he goes again. Arrival now: 0200. At least we're back on the road again...

It's not 30 minutes more on the road when he has diarrhea again, and this time he empties himself in the carrier. Silently. My first sign is the aroma now wafting through the cabin. I figure we've just gotten things settled, we're back on the road, I can deal with it for a while. I roll down the windows part way, crank up the heater (since it's now dark, it's 30 degrees outside, and I'm doing 65mph), and set my resolve. I try to carry on for a while as we drive through a long tunnel but it's clear that this approach is not working. I can't stay warm AND breathe that clean mountain air at the same time. I call Michel and tell her I tried, really I did. We pull over and spend 30 minutes cleaning it up. You see, he turned so that his deposit would be at the opening of the carrier, so we can't get him out in his sedated state without making him messy, too. I take the whole thing out and disassemble it to use the gas station blue paper towels and the clorox wipes from our box of cleaning stuff (that was in the boat, of course) to get things back to normal. 0230.

We continue for a couple hours before Balen has a bloody nose. He's 2, so it's a huge deal, screaming and crying. Luckily there's an exit in a quarter mile. We pull off and just park in the area between the off-ramp and the road with the hazards on. After about 30 minutes dealing with nose and getting things ready to go, I take a wizz next to the truck to stay out of view. Just as I'm finishing (out of sight) a cop stops and asks, in a very annoyed voice, "whats going on?" I tell him about the nose, and he says, "Okay" and drives off. Arrival now 3am.

We stop at a gas station that turns out to be closed, and Michel informs me that she almost ran into the back of me because the brake lights and blinkers aren't working on the car carrier. Turns out it blew a fuse in the xterra, a first in the five years we've owned it.

This "7 hour drive" turned into 11 hours.

So 3am is when we get to my uncle's house. By the time things are settled with kids and clothes, it's 4am, and we have to get up in 3 hours to get everyone ready so we can do our final walk through at the house and then go to closing at 10am. So we get up, bleary eyed and exhausted and get everything ready. But wait, where's Abigail's shoes? WTF? They're absolutely NOWHERE. Now she only has slippers to wear in 25 degree weather. We're late to the walk-through and closing; telling our story to anyone who'll listen in amazement. We're in surprisingly good spirits though, because we're very happy to be ending up in a great house again, after 16 months in a poor house. We own this one, too.

I call the movers to let them know we've closed and they say they can start offloading this afternoon like they said they should be able to. Turns out I called him right as he's thinking HE's got a flat tire! Later we find out it was a broken cab suspension item that is basically like having a blown strut which leaves them bouncing around rather uncomfortably, so they order the part at the truck stop they're at. 120 mile round trip for the guy getting the parts, turns out to be the wrong part. So now they're not delivering til 8am tuesday.

Then we come home and the cat has diarrhea again, and it's bloody. Two pillows ruined, so now we need new pillows... and our house with brand new carpets has it's first pet mess, and we've not even had a day in the house. We brought him to a vet that day to find it was stress-induced from the move, probably combined with a change in diet (ran out of the old stuff, bought Science Diet to last through the move), and he's ok now. He even had a fever. He's 9.5 - we got him when Michel was pregnant with Abigail - but has been through 5 moves with me already, so it's a surprise that he would be stressed out this time.

Monday night we go to JC Penney's to buy some shoes for the girl, we get the shoes, see Linen's N Things is going out of business, which is perfect for stocking an empty house when everything is 50-60% off. When we get home we discovered my daughter is without her gloves. We go back into the store to find them. I then discover I don't have my gloves. Go to Penney's to find them, they don't have it, but they do have my daughter's earmuffs. We go to dinner and discover we've left our son's diaper bag. Seriously!?

Move in goes without a hitch, at least. Cable install goes perfect. I now get 30mbps down, 768kbps up, according to speedtest.net. This is with Time Warner. Comcast only gave me 11 down, same up; but this is only $90 per month with their fastest tier of internet with digital tv and HD, and comcast was charging $150. Hells yeah! So things are nearly at a normal pace and stress level.

Now I have to wire the home network and get it all up to my standards, configure the HTPC for the local channels, hook up the consoles; and, of course, unpack. Things are going smoothly, if slowly, since we're making sure we put everything in the right place the first time.

Good times!

Friday, October 31, 2008

Halloween 2008

Thought you guys might want to see some pics of the kids from Halloween! Abigail used the same costume as last year since she couldn't decide on anything else. Balen is wearing Abigail's Tigger costume from 2002. She was one week shy of 3yrs and Balen is 2.5yrs and wearing the same thing, to give you guys an idea of the size difference. You guys have to hear Balen's version of "pumpkins" - "PUNKEES!" Always with enthusiasm...





"No pishures, Daddy, no pishures!"


Jonathan's drumpkin (yes, that's pumpkin ale!):


Michel's Ghostkin:


Abigail's two-facedkin (all her designs, my carving):

Monday, October 27, 2008

Only 6 months this time!

First major change: we all have new email addresses. Check the email for our new addresses. If you need to get the new address, email the address at the bottom left for more info!


We have a house! We just spent the weekend here in Dayton, OH, looking for a new house to buy and move into in Dec. We have been staying with my Uncle Zdzis and Aunt Maryann. They have been wonderful! We get to eat their food, even after they have cooked it for us, and have watched the kids while we view 30 homes in 18 hours. Balen and Abigail have taken to Aunt Maryann very well. Balen is still a little unsure of Uncle Zdzis for some reason. I guess he finds him very intimidating. Maybe it's his height...

So the house is in Miami Township, but officially is in Dayton. It was one of 3 homes that were at the top of the list. One home (Blossom Park) was very large (2600+ sq ft), but older, and in need of new windows. However, the one thing that made that house unusable was the Master bath was the size of most powder rooms. There was a sink, a toilet, and a shower stall, but only enough room to get from one to the next. Certainly nothing worthy of being called a master bath. The other house we were considering was in generally good shape, but the layout just wasn't as good as the house we are buying, and the master bedroom was kind of small with a very small closet.

The house we're buying was the newest on the list (1984) and was recently completely renovated throughout - completely. The owners got a divorce, the husband was left in control of the house and was trying to sell it. The house had been on the market over a year, and didn't sell. It was listed as a 3 bedroom house, but one bedroom was a windowless room in the finished basement, which is the reason we believe it hadn't sold. The realtor convinced the owner to do a complete renovation in effort to sell it. He was even living in the unfinished laundry room in the basement to leave the house as untouched as possible. You'll see this in the pictures.

So we're limited to $155,000 because of single income and the other mortgage we have for the NJ house, which we have rented out, but are still not making up the entire payment. In Ohio, this can buy a lot of house, it seems. This home is 2242 sq ft, is at the end of a cul-de-sac, has a nice view of the valley to the north. It has two floors and a basement, but with the finished appearance of the basement, it's really a 3 floor house. The only real shortcoming is there is a loft upstairs instead of a 3rd bedroom. We'll overcome this by converting the loft into a bedroom by putting in walls and reversing one of the closets that open into the bedroom next door. We plan on allowing some opening windows or panels of some sort into the living room below, so that it can still be advertised as a "loft", but counting as a full bedroom if/when we try to sell in the future, which will significantly increase the saleability of the home. The home was listed at $159,900, so we had to make an offer to get him to our price range. We made the offer last night, and got the counteroffer (exactly what we expected and planned on) this morning. We accepted, signed the paperwork, and will accompany the inspector tomorrow afternoon before we drive home.

The neighbors we talked with said the area is extremely quiet, no crime problems, and is very lightly traveled since it's on an incline. Unfortunately there don't appear to be very many children immediately nearby, and the sloped road (one of our main considerations) could make bicycle riding a bit difficult, but the home and location are worth it. It will definitely be nice to be around some family again! It will be even nicer to have WATER PRESSURE!

Consider this, we bought our NJ home at $369,900, with about 0.25 acres and is about 2000 sq ft. In ohio (of course with a depressed housing market) we are getting 2242 sq ft, and roughly .35 acres for $155,000. Not bad, indeed.

The basic layout is entry with stairs immediately going upstairs. Upstairs from left to right is loft, bedroom, bathroom, and master bed/bath. Ground floor is living room, dining room (which will be converted into a study), kitchen, eating area (tiled floor in front of doors to deck), and the family room with fireplace, and a half-bath (which will be converted into a library). The basement has a small room (my computer room) just behind the TV wall in the open large area of the basement, a wet bar, a half-bath, laundry room, and door to the outside. Outside has a deck from the kitchen/eating area, with stairs to the ground. In the space under the deck is a shed-like storage area. The yard is quite large, with a large mostly even slope with several trees. Abigail wanted me to make sure I reported the good sledding possibilities of the yard. The home faces to the southwest, and the southern side along the garage looks like it will fit our boat for free boat-parking!

The house should be taking delivery of us on Dec 15th!

Here are the pictures, on the left side of the page will be the various parts (basement, kitchen, exterior, etc) of the home for viewing independently so you don't get lost. Use the links under the grey bar to change viewing setup, including slideshow.

In Other News...

Michel got a bunionectomy (they shaved off the bunion and also severed her large toe bone in her foot, realigned it, and put it back together with screws), more pics on that when we get home and post them. She is mostly recovered, but is still walking around on a funny shoe. She was completely couch-ridden for nearly 3 weeks, meaning I had to do everything, and take care of her.

Abigail has taken up tennis (pics later). She has been doing VERY well this year with her schoolwork. After her hyper activity and severe motor-tics at the Lewantowicz 50th Celebration, Marilynn suggested an appointment with a doctor. We agreed, did so, and discovered she has borderline ADHD. We have gotten her a book to read about it, and have started a team effort to help her deal with the specific challenges that presents to her life. She is now 4'3" and 52lbs. She is maturing emotionally and mentally quite quickly, so we are making moves to help her feel more like an adult and more responsible. She still loves horses, we'll be updating her wish-list shortly.

Balen did a kinda-sorta toddler gymnastics class. Pics later. He is making significant progress towards potty-training and his verbal skills are increasing at a substantial rate now. His imagination is also showing itself; along with his will. He is occasionally attempting covert and/or overt defiance. He is still as sweet as ever. He can now operate my laptop with sufficient skill to browse the pictures on Amazon.com when started with his Cars movie toys. He still loves Thomas the Train and Cars.

For the next who knows how long...

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

So it's... that is... I'm... I mean... we're... done.

First I'd like to say thanks to those of you who offered words of support and/or advice before I did this. It has been another interesting experience in a couple of ways that I will describe.

Second, I'd like to put a disclaimer here: if this stuff makes you uncomfortable, read with care, or in little spurts, or not at all. You can always try putting your head between your knees and... you know what? if you can't handle this, you need to get you a pair. I'm not getting too deep into it... like feeling him tugging at times... hehe - let's move on...

Third, all of this reminds me of this video from the movie Johnny Dangerously, especially when i see how swollen things can be down there:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ukOaQLKjLyE

So the appointment was supposed to be at noon. The day before they called and moved it to 2:15pm. That's not a big deal considering I don't exactly have the most strict of schedules. I was feeling slightly apprehensive about the whole thing, and even now I feel a slight twinge of loss on occasion. However, when I was laying on the table, shaved and twice-sterile (I moved the cloth to cover me when the nurse opened the door, and they had to sterilize me again) I had no reservations. I felt quite calm and relaxed. I was slightly nervous about the shot, because I wasn't sure how much it might hurt to have a needle stuck in my scrotum. Twice. That turned out to be no worse than a needle stuck anywhere else. The pain was yet to come. Not a whole lot, but as men know, pain in that area has this weird way of climbing up the abdomen.

A little backstory. I have always been quite resistant to analgesics. I usually double the recommended dosage of headache medicine just to touch the pain. 4 ibuprofen instead of two. 4 aspirin, instead of two. etc. Maybe that's not that abnormal, but anything less just doesn't do it for me.

Ironically I saw how much anasthesia he was putting in the needle, and asked if he was putting all of that in there. He said rather quickly, "Oh no! It's just in case." I said, "I don't think it will all fit." We all chuckled about that...

So he puts the first bit in on the right side. Little pinch, little burn. Then he IMMEDIATELY gets to work. I don't feel anything at first, then a good bit of pain that goes right up my abdomen. I tell him to stop. He puts in more anasthesia. At this point I am now a bit pale and lightheaded. It hurt a bit. That wasn't supposed to happen. It's very unusual, because everything is where it should be (he told me that some guys have 3 vas deferens, or 1, or there are two but not where they're supposed to be: it's enough of an issue that they send the cut pieces of the vas deferens to a lab to make sure they ARE the vas deferens). So the free-roaming nurse put a cool wet cloth on my forehead, which helped immensely. There were a couple of times past that when I felt some slight twinges of pain, but he put enough anasthesia in the rest of the time where I didn't really feel much more. Nothing coming close to that first bit of pain that ended up feeling like I'd been kicked in the groin (rather gently) because the pain inched up my pelvis.

Other than that, everything went fine. We continued joking and having a good time (relative term). I was still a little light-headed and woozy at the end when I sat up
to get dressed, so I took my time, washed my hands with cool water and sat down for a bit until I was sure everything would be fine.

They gave me some percocet for the pain, and some antibiotics to fight a possible infection. I used up the last of the pain meds yesterday, so today I'm getting a bit more of an idea of just what kind of discomfort my body is dealing with. I feel a bit sore, and there's some bruising, all of which is normal. So I'm keeping the frozen peas in place and I've shifted to ibuprofen for the bits of pain which is now where my thigh meets my pelvis.

It's kind of tough in that I have to keep moving around to keep up with the kids and the responsibilities I cannot defer. It's also more difficult to get motivated to take care of things beyond necessity.

So what if we change our minds and want more kids? you may ask... there's always adoption. It's what we were planning many years ago, so it's not that far beyond the realm of possibility. Besides, there are tons of children out there that could use a family like ours. We've replaced ourselves in the gene pool, we have a boy and a girl, and we've met our quota of 2-3 kids; so there's nothing more we really need from reproduction.

On to more enjoyable sex in the future!

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Time for the snip-snip

Okay, out with it: this Friday I will be getting a vasectomy. Michel and I were talking about it when we made Balen, since we keep "accidentally" producing kids. 2 is enough for us with our current configuration, and since Balen came out alright (so far), we're done with reproduction. So on Friday at 2:15pm EST, I will be removing my genes from any future human gene re-enactments. We know it's permanent. We also think it's much easier than a tubal ligation, since that's a bit more invasive. Also, this is covered with our insurance.

So why a vasectomy? Well, the pill can basically be another form of abortion, if you really look into it. The pill is supposed to prevent fertilization of an egg but also prevents the egg from implanting if it does fertilize (which is the point at which we believe it becomes life and if we're wrong, why take the chance?) it usually just prevents the embryo from attaching and getting the food it needs, so we've been using condoms for years. It's a problematic method with us for 3 reasons: 1. it's expensive 2. it changes the nature of sex no matter what the ads say 3. we don't always use them because of 1 and 2 (a lack of discipline, we know, but there it is). So this way, my ammo will be reabsorbed by my body and not fired out the barrel (to use a more elegant form of the "shooting blanks" metaphor). Which, apparently, is what happens to the unused stock as it is.

More details, you ask? Why sure... They'll snip and cauterize both of my vas deferens, which are the tubes that carry the sperm from the sperm refinery (sounds better than factory, don't you think?) to the shipping and receiving department. Therefore it won't have a chance to get to... well... anywhere at all. Since I'll have sperm already enroute, I'll have to... undergo... 25-30 ejaculations to completely remove the product from the supply chain. This is a good thing. I plan on completing that step of the process in a matter of days. I'm sure Michel is completely on board with this... really... absotively posilutely... Once I have a sufficient number of notches on my belt, I'll go back to the doc and get a sperm count to confirm that there aren't any black-market smuggling operations in place of a legitimate logistics trail.

The best part, is I go there, drive home after no more than an hour, and sit on my butt for the weekend with some comfortable under-drawers (they actually recommend a cup) and a couple bags of frozen peas as a sudden set of best friends. We've replaced ourselves in the world population without increasing the drain on the planet; we've done so with a pair of kids that can qualify in the "brain-busting eye-candy" category; and we've done so early enough that we think we might actually have a marriage in the not-so-distant future in which we can enjoy a house without the CLUMP-THUMP of little feet. Don't get me wrong, we enjoy these two more than anything on the planet, but we've also not had that part of a normal get-married-wait-a-few-years-then-have-kids kind of marriage. Well, we haven't really had much of a normal marriage no matter how you look at, with separation and making it past the average life of a marriage before divorce (last I heard it was something like 7 years). We're in our tenth as of Feb 18th.

So that's the biggest issue with us. Next is a possibility of getting out of here before the fall semester if Michel can work out a deal with the school to do all her research credits before the end of the summer. That would be VERY nice. We're quite tired of this place (more because of the house than anything). So enough of this private-parts discussion, and enough overusage of metaphors...

Sunday, April 06, 2008

On Balen


This little bugger is a majority of my day's work. While I put so much mental effort into Abigail's development, this guy consumes almost all of my physical time. I spend most of my day just keeping him out of the things he shouldn't be in to, off of the things he shouldn't be on, out from under the things he shouldn't be under, out from behind the things he shouldn't be behind, and not touching the things he shouldn't touch.

I've dealt with pen on the couch (still there), pen on the wall (still there, eventually gone); window cleaner on the couch, DVD case, coffee table, electrical outlets, software CDs; all manner of toys behind the entertainment center devices, discarded socks from anywhere you can think of; toy cars from under the oven over and over again, and then again; the list continues.

Since December, his word list has grown significantly. He's still not quite at multiple word phrases, and now that he's showing off his ability to choose to do something other than what we say, he seems to almost resist learning more. More still pop out, but he appears to be content with the words he knows now and the methods of communication already established. The signs are slowly disappearing in favor of words, and I think he is starting to feel the limitations on his vocabulary as he is often frustrated in his attempts to communicate.

His play largely consists of wandering around the house exploring and investigating. He loves going outside and now that the weather has finally turned a little warmer we can indulge him more often. We actually had a day of over 60 degrees, but most days it's still 40-50; still cold. He loves him some bubbles. He loves to explore. He loves to walk. He loves to run. He's now jumping, too, and likes a good bed bounce.

However, we are considering quarantine as he is a walking an infection. He infects everyone in the room with him. The primary symptom is a twitching at the corner of the mouth that can increase in intensity until the victim appears to be smiling. In extreme cases, the victim makes sudden and spasmic noises approximating a normal laugh. In female victims he is often able to elicit spontaneous simultaneous spasms of the diaphragm and vocal cords almost always resulting in some form the word "cute". His effect is instantaneous and universal. The carrier method seems to be somewhat spiritual. That's the long way of saying that the boy has an incredibly infectious ability to bring smiles, laughter, and open remarks on his handsomeness. I was serious though about the universal part. His beaming smile and wonderful attitude have an immediate effect on those who observe him.



We are working pretty well along the path to potty training. He will occasionally pee on his toilet. When he does, we all jump up and down and scream and yell and he gives us "high tens", or occasional "fists" (each person makes knuckle to knuckle contact with a punching motion). We also reward him with Cars diapers - "KEEN!" as he says for the character "Lightning McQueen" - or Buzz and Woody diapers from Toy Story when it's bedtime. He has recently taken to wanting to pee on the big toilets. We have him squat on the seat and do his business while we hold him up. As of tonight, I believe he's getting the idea that he can feel the need to pee coming, and get on the seat ahead of time. I'll get a video of this family toilet experience, as his enthusiasm and excitement and emotional reward are palpable.

The rub is that he has well and truly discovered his ability to control his own actions. He will say "no" even to things he wants, or has just asked for. He will say no to every option presented to him. When able we just honor his wishes and let him deal with the results as they are; some not necessarily to his liking. He is just testing the waters and finding what the limits of his control are. Sometimes that just isn't necessary. Spanking has come in to play because he no longer responds to time-outs when he completely digs in his heels. It's unfortunate after he was so amiable up until now, but it's also working hand in hand with his maturity and taking his first steps to independence from us. It's amazing the timing if they aren't related, but my observations show they are. Here's what I mean: these last two weeks have seen the complete turn around from amiable little boy to defiant little boy. At the same time, he now runs towards the play room at church - a place in which he, up until this Sunday, would cry as soon as that door appeared in his view - and grabs some toys and says goodbye to us with a smile, even if it is a little tenuous. Growth.

Now a few words on his intelligence. As of his last check up just after his birthday, his height and weight are around 70%, and his head circumference is still off the charts. You know what they say about a big noggin! No... not that. Get your head out of the gutter! This kid is freaking intelligent! That's what I meant, naturally. This boy understands the world around him and how he interacts with things with an acuity I've never seen. I don't know what Abigail was like at this age, since I wasn't around her so I cannot draw comparison here or otherwise. That being said, this boy masters physical concepts with only a few attempts: zippers, removing clothes (he can do that already), throwing things, eating, drinking, bubbles, going pee, getting out the makings for his diaper changes, climbing into his booster seat on a tall chair, buckling himself in... the list goes on. His physical understanding is just flat out beyond my expectations. You just have to see it to believe it.

Please do.

Friday, April 04, 2008

On Abigail


This little girl has the strength and intelligence beyond those of most of the people I see around me. If we can just orient them. Teach her to harness them. For her, it would be like having access to the "Force". She has so much energy and potential to harness. Right now her life is completely focused on play. Play is her end-all be-all. Play is her zen, her nirvana. She seeks it every moment. Eternal play is her unattainable perfection of the human state. When she's not playing she's dreaming of play. When she's not dreaming of play, she's dreaming of when she can dream of play. That's her day, and mine, really. My job, unfortunately, is to keep her grounded when necessary, but let her take flight when possible. It's not that she can't focus, she can! When she wants to focus on something, she does. Let her play her DS, and she's gone for hours. So she's able to. It's just the motivation.

She's only 8, we know. But she does not have the same self-control as her peers. Her teachers have mentioned it, at the same time saying we need to test her for being gifted. The adults at her weekly church group mentioned that as well. We don't want to push her beyond her social level, but we also have to challenge her intellectually, and help her build her character.

However, she has made fairly significant improvement. Early on in the school year, she was often still doing her schoolwork until her bedtime at 8pm. Now we can count on her being done before dinner and often on time (3pm). Her showers took up to an hour. Now they're down to 20 minutes. She's regularly ready on time, and even early. Our focus is now gradually shifting toward her ability to obey and follow directions. Even though, she still cannot get through any one event without including some play. We don't mind that so much when she keeps to the rather reasonable limits we've set for her. For instance, she gets up at 7am and has 1.5 hrs to make her bed, shower, eat breakfast. She usually makes that now.

We'll just continue to take our time. We'll use all the methods available to us as parents: reward, punishment, discipline, motivation, education, thinking exercises... She's always been too intelligent and insightful to just push our way through. She questions everything, and wants to understand. We are putting forth an effort to keep our parenting transparent. We tell her what we're trying, and why, so that she can work with us on it. We often seek her suggestions as well. We make it clear that we cannot control her or force her to take any action. We can only implement consequences, positive or negative. She is always under her own control and is responsible for her every action. It's a telling statement about my own childhood that this was a concept I only recognized after she was born. It was such a simple yet profound realization that I had to share it with her and constantly remind her of it.

It's an interesting give and take that I never experienced as a child. So maybe I become a little too enthusiastic about passing on what I think about a situation. Heh... Michel often tells me that I explain way too much. I just think Abigail's mind is so powerful that she needs that depth of understanding to lock it in. Still, I do tend to go on... I've limited that somewhat. So we've long been taking the tack of showing her just what we are trying to do with her. We're making it more of a walking alongside her, instead of the driving parents from behind. We're teaching her up front just exactly what it is we're trying to accomplish as parents; to understand what it is to progress as a human with the tools we're given. God has given her so much, and it's up to her to do with herself what she will. This is where her strength comes in. She fails often. She picks herself back up. She succeeds, fails again, gets back up. Amazing. Just. Amazing.

Our true test is to walk the line of pushing her hard enough, but not too hard. Of being strict, but loving. Driving, and accepting. Sometimes we swing one way or another. I think one strength of ours as parents is that we strive to tell her when we screwed up and apologize. Bring her more into the idea of her own progress.

But this constant fight is just that: a fight. Constantly. Boy, what a handful, eh? It's a good thing we didn't make two. We'd need a whole other set of parents!

I also occasionally work out a Father-Daughter date - a term she gets rather embarrassed about. She doesn't want to think of them that way or call them that. But it adds a little layer of intimacy we both need. Our last one was a trip to the nature center for a bit of winter woodland exploring (see the picture in the album link below where she is wearing multiple layers to demonstrate how animals are prepared for cold weather). She used her camera (my old one) as the designated class photographer. She snapped just about everything. She was also intensely observant and vocal. So many of the children and parents just stood there doing and saying virtually nothing. Abigail's interest and enthusiasm quickly spread to the other children. It's also amazing how few of the children (and parents) were even properly dressed for walking around the woods with snow and ice everywhere. They had flat bottomed shoes on, or tennis shoes. Abigail and I were the only ones with snow boots! I was helping children and parents to negotiate what is normally a walking path, but was more of a skating rink. Weird.

She is developing into a beautiful young woman. Today I saw Abigail sitting on the couch in Michel's arms. You've seen their similarities. It's only stronger now. If Michel is any indication of Abigail's future beauty, she's got a lot to look forward to. I had to take a picture (sorry for the grainy factor, my new camera sucks in anything less than perfect lighting):


We are rather isolated here, though. Not much in the way of human contact other than ourselves. At least she has a friend next door: a 10 year old girl named Fiona. Abigail started going to a church function for girls on Wednesday nights and invited Fiona after a couple times. They have rewards at the end of the year (given out this past week) for things like devotions and verse memorization. Abigail did virtually none of it, and the week before was quite upset that she had no points but blamed it on the few nights where they didn't track points. However, Fiona got nearly all of her verses and devotions having started much later than Abigail and therefore presented Abigail a poignant lesson supporting what we've been trying to teach her all these months: that work nets reward, not inaction.

While this may come across as a negative statement, I hope it does not. I hope that this post comes forward more as a declaration of my daughter's astounding qualities and efforts. A declaration that we are so proud of our daughter. She has surprised us in so many ways. Many of our seeds of wisdom (what little we have) have taken root in her life. She now completely understands the value of honesty. I, of course, do not expect her to always tell me the truth, but I know with all clarity that she has the foundation of a pure character. I know that if she has no other guidance from us that she would push forward with perfect understanding of the necessity of a righteous life. Honesty, service to others, pushing towards a better self, self-analysis and betterment, and intellectual evaluation of information coming your way without blind acceptance, and loving our Lord God and Savior.

The fulfillment of this job of stay-at-home Dad is truly fantastic in it's challenging difficulty, complexity, constancy of work, and deep rewards. The most telling anecdote of the truth of this statement is this: so many people have asked me if I missed the flying - I always take a moment to make sure it's still true, the answer is always "No, not in the slightest. I am home with my children."

Wednesday, April 02, 2008

Finally... only took 3 months

This is the first post this year. I can't believe it has been 3 months already. Hard routine has a way of erasing the passage of time from the mind's eye. That word pretty much defines our lives right now - "routine". Extra tasks have a way of sliding from day to day.

Here's the album of pictures and a couple videos. Over the next couple days, I'll be adding posts about each of us individually.

Wednesday, December 26, 2007

Merry Christmas!


Another year and another chance to celebrate the birth of Christ. An amazing gift, that grace.

Here are the pictures we've accumulated over the last few days. As some of you know, we're in Oklahoma, right now. Specifically, Altus, Oklahoma. Our good friends Chad and Dana just moved here to start their next 3-4 years in the Air Force. Chad and I met in C-17 initial qualification training in Spring of 2001. We've been to each successive base together until I got out of the Air Force. We thought we'd be here to help them move in and such, but as industrious as they are, they finished the majority of the work before we got here.

We spent 24 hours traveling from door to door with both dogs and our stuff. How did we manage all that stuff? Well, we decided on an early Christmas present to ourselves (easier to justify that way, eh?) and bought ourselves a new truck. A 2008 Nissan Armada SE base model with the towing package (it can handle 9000 lbs).



We put both kennels in the back with the 3rd row folded down, the kids in the middle row with the new portable DVD players (which I ensured could be hooked up to display the movie from either one of the players, or be played independently). The interior is cavernous, which is just what we needed.

On buying the Armada: We set a price range of $25k - $35k, and were looking for larger SUVs with larger towing capacity and interior room. We were planning on buying used. Using Consumer Reports we had narrowed our search to the Toyota 4Runner and the Nissan Pathfinder. We went to look at the local Nissan dealership because they had a Pathfinder in stock for us to look at. While we were there, we noticed an Armada parked next to it and decided to take a look at it before the Pathfinder. That was the true moment of realization that we liked all the extra space. When we looked at the Pathfinder, it seemed to offer very little space over our XTerra. This '07 Armada was priced at $29k, which was shockingly within our price range. This was a pretty good deal since brand new Armadas start at over $40k. However, this had 21k miles on it. Being rather impressed with it's size, we headed over to Toyota and looked at the 4Runner and quickly realized it wasn't big enough for what we wanted either. So we looked at the Sequoia, which was suitably large, but didn't seem as large as the Armada inside. We went home, rather entwined about the Armada, but determined to make a rational and logical decision. Reliability is on the side of the Toyotas, but the Armada had much more power and towing capacity with the towing package. We found another Armada with 15k miles on it, but it was a couple hours away. We called that dealership and they immediately offered $27k. The local dealership met the price. We went home to think about it.

While I was doing more research to make sure that our leaning toward the Armada wasn't an emotionally based decision, I realized that neither of these Armadas had the towing package, which is exactly why we were looking at them! The next morning the local dealership calls and says they just got a new '08 Armada in the lot, it's a base model, and it has the towing package. Further, with incentives the way they were, they were offering to sell it at $35k! We went and looked at it that day and sure enough, it had about 10 miles on it. We both drove it around, kicked the tires, slammed the doors, opened all the interior compartments, folded the seats, listened to the stereo, listened to the roar of that fantastic V-8 (318hp and 384 ft-lbs of torque), and went home to take a step back and think about it. We were quite excited at this point so it seemed wise to take a breather. Really, we were both willing to take it home.

I told their finance folks to see what they could do. Our credit is pretty awesome at this point so I knew we had some leverage. I checked with our bank (USAA, a military customers only type of bank) to see what they could do, and they could give us 5.94%. We have virtually all of our finances, loans, and insurance with them; so it's clear we trust them. The dealership offered us 6.4%, so I told them they could get our business if they can get down to 5.5%. They got down to 5.54% with BB&T, so that worked for us. The list price of the vehicle was $44k, they offered $3500 dealer incentive, and then another $4500 factory incentive, so with everything totaled we walked out with $36k on the sticker, put $15k down, and parked the Armada in the driveway with 25 miles on it. We think it was a great buy so far.

Naturally the mileage sucks. We averaged about 14 mpg on the drive to OK, and that was with a couple big cargo bags on the top. You just can't buy this class and get anything other than the EPA promised 18 mpg. Since this is our road-trip-hauling-our-boat-family-pets-and-crap-vehicle we're not overly concerned about it. The Xterra is our about town vehicle while I have the Mazda on jacks in the carport for some engine bay work (the cold weather moved in way faster than we're used to so I couldn't finish it). We'll likely sell the XTerra within the next year or so since it has over 130k miles on it. We just might pick up some other used smaller more fuel efficient family vehicle, but we're not sure about that yet. We hardly drive where we are now, so we'll likely wait until we move to Ohio to make that decision.

Tomorrow we start the drive back. We're going to swing by Enid, Oklahoma, the home of Vance AFB where I did pilot training to look around a bit, then stop in St Louis to check out the arch. Then on to Dayton to take a look around at the area and the housing in preparation for next year's move (about a year from now already). Then on to PA once again.

On Oklahoma:
We've spent the last near week here in Altus (check google maps to see just how small this town is) while Chad and I reminisce about our training here at Altus AFB and while we manage the three children and three dogs running around. At night when the kids go to bed we play Rock Band (a rhythm based band video game on the Xbox) until it's time to go to sleep. Chad plays the guitar, Michel sings, Dana plays the other guitar, and I play the drums. It's a fun way to pass the time, listen to/play some good music, and enjoy each other's company.



Chrismas day went about how you expect. The kids got up rather early, ran to the gifts (Balen not so much, but he jumped on his new Tonka dump truck in a flash), ate a quick breakfast, and then waited mostly patiently while the adults got everything together and cooked some cinnamon rolls. We then started the rather intensive sorting process (you folks are going to spoil our kids!) and set about opening everything. While we do plan on sending thank you cards (we have a list and everything) I'd just like to say thank you all for all the wonderful gifts and cards you sent.

So on to the Christmas pictures. They are from both of our cameras, and since the filenames don't exactly jive, they are a little jumbled. There are some stellar pictures in there, so watch out.

Love you all!