Thursday, March 09, 2006

Okay, the pics are up, and I discovered the feed link!

Okay, so I'm a schmuck. I just found the actual link that will allow you to use an RSS feeder to track updates to this blog for you. This way you don't have to rely on my emails to discover the update. I will not stop the emails, but this should make things easier for you all. Now that this particular flurry of activity is over, of course. Sorry I didn't discover this earlier. Of course, when I first started this, I didn't realize that there was such a thing.

If you don't know what an RSS feed is, it's basically a link that you can give to a RSS feed reading program, such as SharpReader (what I use), that will tell you when your favorite blogs have updated. That way you don't have to keep hitting refresh or constantly check back. Again, sorry I didn't find this earlier.

Wednesday, March 08, 2006

They are home.

Michel and Balen have been home for about an hour. I am typing this Superman style with one hand since Balen is in my arms absorbing geekocity though osmosis. Okay, not anymore, he's in bed with Michel (who has an upset stomach).

Check out the latest pics. (up shortly if not yet)

They're coming home!

Great news! Michel called to say that the latest b-count shows 15.2. The 0.1 rise from the last reading is negligible since the test's inherent error is +/- 2.0. Since there is no increase from the last test, Michel has to gather her things, muddle through the discharge paperwork, pack up the kid, and come home. Hooray for our side!

There will be another test on Friday, and we'll naturally keep a very close eye on Balen, to include tracking input and output quantitatively, skin color, and activity levels.

So very nice to get back to a normal home schedule. Thanks all for your prayers, love, and support. A special thanks to Chad and Dana for taking Abigail, and Joe and Kim for bringing us food, and to both couples for their all around support during another trying time in NJ. The fun just never ends around here, eh?

Playing catch up...

Here's some other stuff I haven't posted yet, with all the recent excitement:

Michel's 30th Birthday!

Most of you know Michel turned 30 on 24 Feb. What most of you didn't know, and she didn't know until it happened, is that I surprised her at work with a small party and a big ice cream cake from Coldstone Creamery. Because of her, pardon the pun, workLOAD we couldn't exactly go out and celebrate the way we would like to, so a little surprise, and a dinner made by me so she could relax (which I've been doing more of lately anyways) made for a nice birthday.

Check out the picture album.

Abigail's First Ice Skating Adventures

As part of our ongoing program to focus time on Abigail in light of the arrival of Balen, we decided to set up a couple programs for us and Abigail. The first is ice skating lessons. On 25 Feb, we took her to the local ice rink for her first YMCA sponsored lessons. She wasn't doing so well, and the teacher was flying through a lot of stuff in half an hour, and she got quite discouraged. So I took her to show her some of my ice skating moves learned from a few months of working at an ice rink 10 years ago, and these pictures are the result. She progressed very quickly, and even started making her own challenges. "From here to the blue line!" "From here to the corner and, Daddy, you go there and don't move, and wait for me." She is having fun, and so am I.

Here are a couple short movies about the whole thing. By the way, I have a longer one (6mb) that's on the laptop. I'll post it later since I'm in a time crunch right now. I have to get dinner and get back to the hospital with Abigail. These movies should work in either Quicktime or Windows Media Player.

Movie 1 Movie 2

16:30 - 15.1!

Once we're below 14, we get him out of the incubator, then 4 hours later another b-count to make sure it doesn't start climbing again. Abigail and I are home, going to eat dinner then head back to the hospital for a bit. Michel just had her food delivered.

Abigail just stubbed her toe and cut it on one of the basement steps. She actually cut it a bit on the silver cover of the edge of the top stair. Why? She was running around naked. Why? I'll let you figure that one out. I certainly have no idea.

17.8!

It dropped again for this morning's 6am blood test. His heel was still bleeding a little bit from the last one. I don't know why. Taking Abigail to school then going to the hospital to see my son.

Blue Light pics up!

Check the links on the left side.

Tuesday, March 07, 2006

Balen in the Blue Lights

A shot of Balen, taken with my phone
A shot of Balen with my camera phone, with Michel's hand touching his leg through the opening in the side of the incubator. The bililights cause this weird screen flickering.

Most of you already know about this, as we were able to get the word out to the core folks. Some of you were left out of the notification, sorry, but we had other things to do.

The situation:
Balen developed a bit of jaundice over the last couple days, which is quite common among newborns, and even more common with preemies (premature babies). Balen was born at 36 weeks, 6 days, which is just barely considered preemie, but preemie nonetheless. He ended up with a very high level of bilirubin in his blood, at the highest, 26.1 mg/dL, which is high enough to get us to the hospital as fast as possible for phototherapy (shining special blue-white fluorescent lights, called bililights, on the baby to break down the bilirubin). We rushed to the hospital after the initial findings, and as of last report, Balen is back down to 21.3; which is a huge drop for only 3 hours in phototherapy. This is good. Why is this high level of bilirubin a problem? Possible brain damage (Kernicterus in this case: Surviving infants usually develop a severe form of athetoid cerebral palsy, hearing loss, dental dysplasia, paralysis of upward gaze and, less often, intellectual and other handicaps.). There will be another test at midnight tonight to see if the improvement continues. EDIT: That just came back, it's now down to 18.8! Hallelujah! Praise God!

Please keep praying, it's working.

Now the bottom line has been laid, lets build on the situation to give you a better understanding. For those of you with medical training, please bear with me, and feel free to correct what little I have been able to learn so far.

What causes the jaundice (yellow coloring to the skin) is a higher than normal level of bilirubin in the blood. Bilirubin is a chemical breakdown product of hemoglobin, which is basically the red blood cells moving oxygen and stuff through your body. When the hemoglobin breaks down, bilirubin is one of the by-products. Newborns are producing quite a bit of red-blood cells immediately after birth to help move all this oxygen in a way quite new to the baby: from the lungs to the tissue. All this extra production means extra red-blood cells that need to be tossed out when they're used up. However, the newborn has a very new liver that hasn't had to do much work before. Hence, a very common build up of bilirubin.

What went wrong here, is that Balen accumulated quite a large amount of bilirubin. I have not been able to find out just what amount of bilirubin is acceptable in a baby, but one range I heard was 17-18 mg/dL as the upper limit before action should be taken. Our first test today around 12pm resulted in 25.5. We had the first pediatrician visit, and due to the jaundice (Balen had gotten more yellow by today than we had seen so far) the doc ordered a blood test at the local hospital (Virtua Memorial Hospital in Mount Holly, NJ). We did that and went home.

To do this, they have to prick the heel, much like the initial blood culture taken after birth. They have this little tool that looks like a mini container of floss, except it has a button, and a blade. They line up the blade end against the heel, and then they press the button. It snaps and quickly jabs a 2mm or so long cut in the skin, deep enough to draw plenty of blood. The reason for this method is the baby doesn't exactly have good veins to draw blood from. If the baby's foot is on the cool side (not warm) they have to then squeeze the foot repeatedly to get the blood to flow out in a usable amount, which is very little. Now, I am a grown 30 year old military dude who has now been stuck by all manner of steel instruments to keep me up with vaccinations, yearly blood tests, etc. I watch and am rather fascinated by the event, and often help the technician by holding vials, pointing out my vein, etc. In other words, it no longer phases me. I never got to see this happen with Abigail. When Balen had it done on Saturday by the midwives, I was cooking lunch. So, today, when I watched this for the first time, I was extremely surprised by how light-headed I got watching this procedure. Babies do not like this procedure. JONATHAN does not like this procedure. It was horrible to watch, made all the worse by the necessity of the procedure, and my empathatic nature. At the end, I mustered what macho I could, and told the wife. She asked me if SHE should carry Balen. I wasn't that bad...

So, at 2:15 or so in the afternoon, we get a call from the pediatrician with the results. Michel answers, and I watch her face change. My heart sunk. Michel puts the doc on the speakerphone and we listen as the doc tells us we need to get Balen to the hospital immediately, they are waiting to admit us on the 3rd floor for phototherapy. Michel was rather upset at this point, and I'm getting kind of angry at this particular doc's bedside manner. I start grilling the doc to find out what is really going on and to make sure that this isn't some form of over-reaction based in a world more ready to medically intervene than is usually necessary. It turns out Balen's bilirubin was measured at 25.5 mg/dL. This means nothing to us, but the doc isn't expounding much at all. I say thank you and hang up.

I hold Michel for a bit, as she is visibly shaken and in tears. I am switching gears into a very logical mental state to evaluate all options, prioritize the available responses, and most importantly, take action. I am also trying not to think about what all this just might mean; besides, there's more important things to do. Michel gets cracking on gathering the baby. I get on the phone with the midwives whom I am much more willing to trust, as they have demonstrated a very like-minded approach to the whole baby-thing. I talk with Pam, who says 25 is very high, in fact higher than any other number she has seen. She's been doing this for quite a while, so this is when the first bit of worry breaks through. She tells us to get to the hospital as soon as we can. I ask her why? What are the possible ramifications? She says, "brain damage". That bit of worry just peaked a bit. I ask a couple other questions to make sure I know a little bit more about what is going on, all the while gathering stuff for the trip (diaper bag and it's various contents, some stuff to keep us occupied while we're waiting, and some water and gatorade).

By 2:45pm we were at the hospital. They were clearly expecting us. The nurses show us to our room, and tell us to get Balen naked. We rather efficiently work together to get this done. Did I ever mention how good a team Michel and I make? They ask us a couple questions, they weigh and measure Balen, and the hospital doc comes in. He starts explaining the options: phototherapy, if that doesn't work, transfusion. 1 in 100 of babies with this high a number end up with brain damage, so chances are quite good there won't be any problem as long as the number comes down. I interrupt to say, "So what's keeping us from getting him in there now?" See if you can guess... Sure enough, I have to admit the child before they'll do anything. So I bolt down to admission, sign the paperwork and get back upstairs to hear Balen screaming in the other room while they are doing the heel prick thing. I had a moment to myself, and it kind of all rolled in on me, and I started tearing up. I took a deep breath and found Michel, and talked some more with the doc to see if any of the events of the last couple days had any bearing, or if the healthy breastfeeding with Abigail made any difference. It didn't.

We got Balen back, and put him under the lights. His right arm is all wrapped up for the IV, and he has this skin temperature sensor stuck to his belly. He wears these cool looking space age foam goggles to block any light from reaching his eyes. Later they added an oxygen sensor to his left big toe.

We soon got the results from the bilirubin test, now 26.1. But these tests have an error of +/- 2, so it's not to worrying. The nurse fed Balen a bottle of formula, and we gathered around to watch. She lifted him up to a sitting position to burp him, which he immediately complied with, and then looked around. His eyes went straight to Mommy, then Daddy, then the nurse, at whom he just looked at for a second, then promptly ignored. Good to see him back on track.

The most telling result will be the 6pm test. I was on the road picking up Abigail from my friends place (they picked her up and fed her dinner) and explaining the situation to her, when the results came back. The nurse was supposed to call me, but she had already left. I should have counted how many times Abigail asked, "Why?" on the trip to the hospital. As we were driving up, I realized that we should be able to see the blue lighted window on the side of the hospital. Sure enough, we could. I worked hard to show Abigail (eventually successful, when she actually looked where I was pointing). She enjoyed pressing the elevator buttons. First thing I asked when we arrived, the answer: 21.3.

21.3? That's great, right? The nurse says that's much better than they were hoping for. They were thinking 23 at best, so 21.3 was a very pleasant surprise. It was also clear in Balen's behavior. He was more alert, more fidgety, eating better, and starting to get sick of laying there with no real stimuli.

Abigail reached through the hole to touch him and say hi. When she did, he really got active and started squirming. He seems to like the sound of her voice. Abigail then proceeded to color on the whiteboard, fly her pegasus around the room, ask for a band-aid from the nurse, ask for a snack, ask for a picture to color (three times, each time being told, "No, we're leaving soon!") eat a snack, ask why the marker isn't writing on the whiteboard anymore, ask Mommy if she should help pump the milk, and generally be Abigail. Michel pumped some more milk to keep up with Balen's feeding schedule, and we packed up and went outside. Once out there, I showed Michel the Blue Window, and took a few pics while they warmed up inside the Xterra.

So now, Abigail is asleep in bed, Michel is trying to get some sleep in a cot in the hospital, I am here writing this, and I just got off the phone with Michel with the latest test results, 18.8! and am ready to finally get some sleep. I just had to let you all know what's been going on.

Just keep praying. It works.

Some links:
Jaundice
Hyperbilirubinemia (jump down to half way)
Kernicterus
Webmd listing of common newborn problems

Friday, March 03, 2006

Balen in training

If Balen is to someday challenge my position as Alpha Male, he must first master the tools of combat. The first battlefield lies in the world of gaming. Today we start with console gaming and the Xbox 360.

First I must introduce Balen to the Xbox 360 controller. He must appreciate the form, size, and weight:


Here I instruct Balen on proper hand position and technique: Where are the dead zones? What fingers are best used for what buttons?:


It's an immediate success! Michel is already rolling her eyes and sighing heavily. Balen has successfully triggered the Exasperated Mother mentality necessary to the healthy struggle of any young gamer. The sheer beauty is staggering... Yet his technique is flawed. I sense some measure of fatherly aid in achieving this goal. Balen must be able to move with such speed and dexterity unaided. We must practice.

Next Lesson: pressing the buttons.

Thursday, March 02, 2006

New pics are up!

Check the link on the left side. This should help flesh out yesterday's events.

Here are our children (wow! plural!), saying goodnight to each other. Notice Balen's grip.



Check out the excel file with all the names we considered. The first sheet is the final list. The second sheet is our allowed middle names. Third sheet is the same list sorted in different ways. Sort order from left to right: J, M, A, Sigma, then A+. The orange highlight shows the top 5 allowed names from each list.

A description of the columns:
Name - self-explanatory
Rank - What rank the name had in the 2004 census (how popular the name was). Data pulled from the NameVoyager
J - Jonathan's ranking scale of 1-10
M - Michel's ranking
~ - The difference between J and M
Sigma - J + M
A - Abigail's ranking
A+ - A + J + M

How we used them:
Rank - if it was in the top 100, an automatic exclusion. We don't want popular names. Abigail wasn't that popular at the time. 1000 entered if the name wasn't on the list.
J - largely discounted
M - The primary reference (joke!)
~ - just something neato to show us how different our opinions on a name were
Sigma - the smaller the number, the better the two of us like a name, combined
A - added later in the game to see how it would affect things
A+ - same

In case you were wondering, most of this excel stuff was my idea.

And the winner is...

Balen George Allain

We did a little more research into the meanings of the names and came up with this:

Cade - "Round" or "barrel" in old english, also, "Left by the mother and raised by hand" as in "a cade lamb" (from Merriam-Webster)

not a terribly positive result

Balen - in Latin "Brave"

also, Cade is climbing sharply in popularity according to past censi. Balen isn't even on the list. Michel liked the combination of old and new with Balen George, so when we finished working it through, that's what we decided.

So, welcome to the world, Balen George Allain.

Btw, he's not even a day old and has garnered a pile of laundry. The kid is a virtual sprinkler! Collateral damage is at an all time high with each diaper change. Good poo, good pee, and good gas. If we could harness methane as an alternative fuel, our house would be getting money from the electric company.

More pictures coming shortly!

Please hold the calls

In case you are thinking of calling, we are going to settle in for the night. Please wait until tomorrow afternoon (Thursday past 1200 our time) and we'll be happy to talk with any and all callers. First come, first serve, naturally.

Thanks for experiencing this event with us, even if it is long distance. Praise God in His infinite wisdom for granting us this gift of the ages.

We love you all, and thank you all for the prayers, kind words, and support.

Signing off!

P.S. - It appears according to several markers that the baby is 37 weeks! That's 3 weeks early. No procrastination indeed. Apparently March 22nd was the correct target from the get go. This is the reason for the Vitamin K shot, which we ARE doing.

A little more info...

After all this work, from 6pm to 10pm of constant contractions, Michel went from 5cm to 6cm. That wasn't good enough. We broke the water around 11pm, and 1 hour later Michel has given birth. It went very fast. Michel was on her left side in the middle of the bed going through the Transition stage, and then she said she wanted to push, and get off the bed and squat. We hurried between contractions and pushing, and I reminded them I wanted to catch. I told them to get the mirror so we could see what's going on. They told me after the first push in the squat to get my hand under there. I immediately felt the spread and the head. It actually felt a bit like the umbilical, but they said it was the head. Next push I had his head in my hands. They said one more push for the shoulders, and I caught the baby and handed him directly to Michel. Abigail was in Kim's arms, asleep as could be. She refused to wake. Even later after the birth, I asked her if she wanted to see her little brother. Her answer? NO! I made her do it anyways. She woke up a bit later and actually said yes, but fell back asleep, so she's back in bed.

He's pretty quiet. Only a few cries when greatly disturbed. It also looks like we should give him a Vitamin K shot because of certain characteristics. We'll likely do that. Have to get Michel off the phone first.


March 2nd 2006 0006 EST. His birthday is march SECOND. Not the first for you west coasters.
Weight? 6lbs 10oz
Head Circumference: 33cm
Chest circumference: 31cm
Length: 20.25"

Name: ??????

The first pics!

See the first picture album of Little Two. Name yet to be determined...

http://www.jonathan.allain.com/birth/

It's a boy!

0006 EST March 2nd. It's a boy! purple, too...

Wednesday, March 01, 2006

Marathon...

Michel is out of the bath now. We had a nice inflatable cushion we bought a while ago. She got kind of sick of the constant warmth, and wasn't completely immersed, so it wasn't as helpful. She is in bed on her left side.

This is how her contractions go: she closes her eyes, hunches a bit, and starts breathing. Someone applies pressure to her lower back, someone rubs her foot, or head, and somone holds her hand. I am one of the back or hand people with just about every one of them. We're both getting a little tired, as it's a bit late, and it's been a long day, but we're moving through it all. It doesn't seem to be as fast as Abigail was, either.

See you soon.

Progress!

We haven't had an exam since the last one at 5cm, but we are having consistent strong contractions. The midwives will do another exam if we ask for it, but we figure there's no reason for one, since the contractions keep happening. Michel moved downstairs for a bit of salad from Saladworks, in between bites we would work through her contractions. We sat in the family room for a bit, and have now moved back upstairs. She just moved into the bath to take advantage of the warm water. There has been no sign of water breaking as of yet, but that can wait until 9-10cm if necessary.

Michel is a trooper. She is calling the pain an 8 now on a 10 scale. She started at 6 after the Castor oil. Dana (a friend from Charleston) is here, too. She's the wife of Chad, my C-17 copilot school partner, and best friend. Joe went home to sleep after 24+ hrs of wakefulness, but he's next door. We are taking pictures, but it would take to long to post them. So you'll have to wait.

Keep on praying!

Looks like the castor oil worked...

Contractions hitting pretty hard and fast. Michel and Abigail are picking out the first outfit, one for each gender. Joe and Kim are retrieving dinner from Saladworks... Looks like things are finally getting going!

Abigail is bouncing off the walls

Poor girl, all these people here, and she is virtually being ignored. If we could could just tap into her energy reserves and power our house for the rest of the year... We sent her to the neighbor's house, and she was great, as soon as she stepped in the door here she went ballistic. So hard to play it right and keep her fulfilled and loved, and yet get her to get control of herself and calm down... Kim and Joe are taking her to McDonald's... she loves the idea, naturally. We almost never take her because we both dislike the place.

Hopefully our constant preparation with her for the baby will smooth the transition.

Things on hold?

We are kind of stalled at 5cm right now. We have tried a couple stimulation techniques to get the contractions going, but nothing is taking hold. Our next step is to try Castor oil, that worked with Abigail, but her water was broken then, it isn't yet with L2. So, we're hoping this will work so we don't have to break the water. We're a little leery of doing something so seemingly invasive, even though we are sure it wouldn't cause any harm.

Current stats: 5cm, -1 station, 50% (my 70% estimate before was wrong)

We went for a walk with Abigail and the dog, to see if that would work, but no go. Michel is also getting hungry again. Whoduh thunkit? So, we'll see. Another update when I can.

It's a zoo!

We have 3 midwives, 1 doula, 2 neighbors, 1 dog, 1 cat, oh yeah, and the 3 of us.

Michel has the IV in her hand because she tested positive for a slight infection (Strep B?). She had this with Abigail as well. The IV feeds antibiotics to make sure nothing is transmitted to the baby during the birth. You may see that when we post a couple of pictures in the near future.

I just got back from Costco with a few pizzas, and dog food (because we were out). The house sounds like a girl's party. Women laughing and talking. Not what you would expect from the normal hospital type birth, eh? It's pleasant.

Vote on our names!

We have a couple names each for boy or girl, and we are curious as to what everyone thinks. Not that this necessarily means anything to what we pick, but we are curious.

Boy Names:
Cade Michael Allain or Balen George Allain

Girl Names:
Rowen Denise Allain or Lorien Alice Allain

So, post a comment, and vote. If you for some reason are not allowed to post comments, let me know, and I'll invite you so you can post comments.

Let the voting begin!

It has begun!

Michel is apparently starting the process. All four, count 'em, four midwives are present. Our neighbors Joe and Kim are here, and we're getting everything ready for the big event. Abigail isn't going to school today, though we had to convince her not to. Apparently she likes all the activities at school. So, we told her about all the stuff she might miss and she reluctantly decided to stay here. Unfortunately, Callie is ill, so to keep the germs away, she won't be here. We'll miss you, Callie!

So, everyone can keep an eye on this webpage, and their emails, and we'll let you all know what's going on. A couple of phone calls are coming your way as well to get the alerts going.

Michel is going into today at 3.5cm, -1 station, and about 70% effaced. As of right now she is 4cm, but stretchable (with the exam) to 6cm.

Also, to help you pass the time, there are a couple of new picture albums online. Check the links to the left. Although there is an issue with the web service, I am trying to get more space available for picture storage. So, they may not be up right away.